2 John 4-5 It has given me great joy to find some of your children walking in the truth, just as the Father has commanded us. And now, dear lady, I am not writing you a new command but one we have had from the beginning. I ask that we love one another.
This verse screamed out at me this morning. I don’t know if it was because it was saying “dear lady” and I took that as though He was talking directly to me, or if my heart and soul were trying to tell me something. I think it was a mixture of both. As I meditated on this verse and began to journal through it this blog post was formed. I asked myself two simple questions. How do I demonstrate Gods greatest command, loving others? And how do I bring this command down to my children’s level?
I will be the first to say that I struggle with this daily. Throughout the day my temper wears thin, my patience runs out, and I place other things in front of my children. That is why I believe this verse jumped out at me so clearly today, this is an area of motherhood that is a constant struggle for me. How do I show love?
One thing that I have learned the most through raising four completely different children is that each child speaks and feels love completely differently. If you haven’t read the book, The 5 Love Languages, I strongly suggest you do. In this book you are taught that there are five different languages of love, that we each show love to others by the way we feel loved. Needless to say I see this in my children. My love language is completely different then each one of theirs yet in order for them to truly be filled with love from me I have to show them love in the way they feel it. Kind of a complicated thing to say, and also do, when you have four different children with four completely different needs.
To show my children love I have to be intentional, I have to see life through each one of their eyes, and no matter how uncomfortable or awkward it may be for me, I have to show them love the way they feel it. Whoosh! Friends that isn’t easy. I fail daily. But that is the beauty, God shows His grace to us through our children (at least in these early years ) We as mothers are constantly learning, messing up, and doing good, only to have these little people still love us in spite of our flaws. Don’t let the devil step in and consume you with mom guilt. That is probably one of the biggest spiritual attacks us moms encounter. You my friend, are a good mom. You are learning and growing and if you care enough to feel guilty then you are doing a darn good job.
So, here is my challenge (and trust me I am taking it with you!) In showing our children love like they feel it we can help them show love to others. Challenge your kids to do something that is out of their comfort zone. It may be saying Hi to the old lady next door, taking in your neighbors garbage can, holding the door open for a stranger, or even better, have them hug and pray over a sibling that they fight the most with (this one is totally for me ) In doing this, you will mold and shape your child through the years to love others in ways those people need to be loved, without your child awkwardly having to learn it when they are our age (like me). We are called to train these babies to be disciples of God. What greater way to do that then to help them love like Jesus. I promise you that YOU will learn more than them along the way!
Luke 18:17 I tell you the truth anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.